Loads of Valentine Love

‘With or without the razzle-dazzle of its seductive cover, I hope you can see that I am simply a reflection of all your love and beauty.’

I have never really loved Valentine’s Day. So the production and commercialization of Valentine’s classics from Hallmark and FTD florist don’t interest me. However, if you want to talk about chocolates from See’s Candy, I have a moment to sit and chat with you.

I took a second to dive into the origins of Valentine’s Day, and I don’t know how I feel about the celebration. However, the following paragraph was taken directly from the interwebs:

“The ancient Romans may also be responsible for the name of our modern-day of love. Emperor Claudius II executed two men — who were both named Valentine — on Feb. 14 of different years in the third century. Their martyrdom was honored by the Catholic Church with the celebration of St. Valentine’s Day.” 

So we have Christian saints and martyrs associated with romantic love for supposedly ‘secretly marrying young Christian couples’ so that the men could avoid military service. But, also celebrate the birth of spring when flowers blossom and birds mate. It’s altogether too much for me.

I grew up in a Catholic / Christian household, where I attended services and after-school specials at both churches on many occasions – with all of that, it still left me questioning its history, beliefs, and symbols. So when it came time for my confirmation at around age 11, I told my parents I would do it if I didn’t have to attend any of the services anymore. They said, “fine.” I did not believe the stories I was being taught – and figured a way out.

Little did I know then that I was learning to listen to my heart and how to love myself.

Valentine’s day is considered a celebration of fertility and love. But the violence that happened in the 3rd century sure doesn’t sound like the gift of a dozen roses to me.

I’ve had many true loves in my life, all unique and special in their way. Of course, some lasted longer than others, but all were part of my growth. 

One of the most important things I took away from those relationships was how to give and receive love. To be nurtured and loved by others is a natural thing. So, learning to surrender part of yourself  – so that you can be the recipient of someone’s respect and kindness is beautiful. 

So today, let’s all take a moment to think about what we love about ourselves. We all possess many unique qualities. And, if you are single, let’s treat ourselves to a favorite meal, sit in the sun and let it warm our faces, or take a moment to breathe. But most importantly, remember always to share love, especially when you feel it bubbling up from your heart.

I can hardly express how much I honestly care about our community. The love and admiration I receive have always been taken to heart, much deeper than the outside façade of all the glamour and style. So, with or without the razzle-dazzle of its seductive cover, I hope you can see that I am simply a reflection of all your love and beauty.

Loads of Love,


Feature image: Courtesy of Matthew Cox

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